Truth, Cheating and Lies | Everyday life with toddlers and babies

Lying means knowingly not the truth accept. But children really can lying or where does this kind of come from cheating?

It is clear that children through imitation learn – this imitation is primarily experienced in its immediate environment. It learns from its parents, siblings or other relatives and friends. If children recognize early on that the truth is not being told to them either, they gradually learn to help themselves by cheating and lying.

  • At what age can a child distinguish between truth and lies?
  • Why do children sometimes say inappropriate things?
  • Is my child lying out of fear or out of politeness?

At what age can a child distinguish between truth and lies?

Children are not stupid and quickly notice when they are being led behind the light. Nevertheless, studies have shown that children themselves only from the age of about 4 years start “lying” at will. Lying sometimes requires a certain vocabulary, a special way of thinking and a certain behavior. By the age of 4, a child is very capable of holding conversations and also empathizing with other people.

A little hint: Never tell your child untruths! It will take you as a role model and of course want to imitate you!

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Why do children sometimes say inappropriate things?

Children’s mouths tell the truth! This old adage is very apt indeed, because which adult hasn’t seen this wisdom blush at least once?

Children often speak freely and freely in public. This can be about the appearance of other people, the behavior of the parents at home or the nature of the environment. “Mom, that man is fat!” or “Dad, when will I finally get something to eat again?” many adults have to digest first. Especially when other passers-by or fellow human beings look at the parents in disbelief. Of course, small children do not mean these statements maliciously – they just miss the sensitivity and flair that what they say may be inappropriate, hurtful, or downright embarrassing.

Is my child lying out of fear or out of politeness?

As children grow older, they learn that in some situations cheating or lying is appropriate. You get this of course “Funkern” or “shallow lies” taught by their peers. Of course, this should not hurt anyone’s feelings, but should be acted out of politeness. Although many children find it difficult to avoid avoiding the unpleasant truth, over time they get to know the difference between honesty and being polite better and better.

However, whether a child lies out of fear sometimes depends on its environment. When a child knows they have nothing to fear because they accidentally smashed their friend’s toy or unintentionally smashed their neighbor’s window, then they will tell the truth of their own free will.

However, if a child is afraid of punishment, they will try to evade it with lies. It wants to protect itself and tries to cover up the incident with a lie.

A little hint: No matter what your child does. Never be too strict. Never forget that you were small and a kid once too. Try to be strict but also gentle. The child should never be afraid and should learn to lie out of this fear.

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