One Divorce of the parents is no longer uncommon today. A child is not asked to do this. It has to accept that. Some parents are so selfish that the child is bartered like a commodity. It’s a cost, and even if they’re asked where they want to live in the future, the answer matters little. Decisions are made over his head.
Luckily for the child, things aren’t always that blatant. But it is always a painful moment for children when they lose one of their two most important caregivers. Most of the time, they don’t really understand this process at all. It depends on their age to what extent they are informed or, more likely, are able to gather the information. Then the retiring parents at least had enough backbone not to use the child for their purposes. That’s not all that rare either.
Parental Divorce – a Necessity?
There are of course other cases in which a divorce of the parents can be right. If one of the partners abuses the other, then that may be the case. In such a case, even a child does not want to watch. Or if one partner falls so seriously ill that he can no longer look after the child or is even dangerous to him – this can also be a reason for the other partner to insist on a divorce.
But in the vast majority of cases, it is selfish reasons that lead one or both parents to separate. Last but not least, this includes when one of the partners cheats.
Social influences favor divorce
But the social environment also favors the divorce. Marriage enjoys less and less protection, also because other partnerships are valued. It becomes easier to break up. Then don’t be surprised at the consequences. Single parents have it a lot harder. How are they supposed to balance work and education in terms of time? Ultimately, it is the children who suffer. But they are not asked, and even if they were asked, their answer would not solve the problem.
Parental divorce – what does that mean for the child?
That means becoming independent as quickly as possible. Forming your own opinion and not believing everything your parents tell you – it could be a one-sided view. It’s good if it has at least one parent that it can use as a guide. That’s better than nothing. Of course, this depends on the age of the child.
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